You also are probably way behind in your sleep. Babies don’t seem to get the concept of day and night and waking several times to feed and care for your baby is not going to get you any more in the mood.
Something else that may not even be a conscious concern is that the baby could awake at any given time, quite possibly in the middle of the moment. It is so hard to enjoy sexual interaction when a part of you is still focused on your baby.
So, yes, you are completely normal. But that doesn’t really fix the problem. Unfortunately many spouses just don’t seem to be able to cope with being cut off for too long. Some even get jealous of the attention you are giving the baby but are not giving him.
There are some solutions. First of all, don’t feel guilty about not being into sex. That will just make things worse in the long run. Instead make sure to make an effort to keep the peace with your significant other, even if it isn’t exactly the first thing on your mind.
If you can, get someone to take care of the baby for a few hours so you can get out on a date and maybe escape to a hotel room for a bit. By getting away from the baby you will have a chance to get back to yourself and not fret about the possibility that you baby will hear you. The couple time is also very important for putting your relationship back together.
Having a baby is a huge change, so don’t be surprised if your feelings towards many things adjust. Also, don’t be surprised if your spouse changes his interests in you. He is also adjusting to your new arrival and may not quite know where things stand any more. Make sure that in all the excitement of the baby you don’t forget to keep your relationship in good shape too.
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