[Submitted Question]

I love my baby son. I honestly do. But I can't stop feeling a bit jealous too. As soon as my husband steps in the door at night he will talk to and play with the baby. This is great of course. Unfortunately, he barely takes time to say hello to me. I feel as if I were just the nanny. Something has to change as this is starting to impact my relationship with the baby. Am I a horrible mother for wanting some attention too?

[WombToBloom]

Nope. You’re normal. But so is your husband. From your husband’s point of view, he’s been at work and you’ve been lucky enough to spend the whole day with your little guy. Your husband just wants to get in some snuggles and giggles and smiles before bedtime. I’m not saying it’s right. But it’s not wrong either. (Your husband, never having been in your shoes, doesn’t know how much you are craving adult interaction after a full day of baby talk.)

After you put the baby to bed, pour a glass of wine and grab a seat on the couch next to your husband. Accept that the immediate post-work time is going to be baby play time, take that quick peck on the cheek as he walks in and let them go off – it’s really awesome that Dad and baby have such a great bond actually. But let your husband know that you need some of his attention too – just let it wait a bit. I actually had to point out to my husband that I needed grown-up conversation when he got home each evening. When my babies were small, I usually held dinner until after they were in bed. Then my husband and I were able to enjoy an uninterrupted, grown-up dinner together – sometimes with conversation, sometimes in front of the TV but usually together.

[noel0077]

It's natural dear listen you are saying that when your husband comes home from job he did not bother to wish you he and also use to ignore baby.In my opinion it is happening because may be your husband feels tired so it up to you how to treat him and baby as well it will be fine soon.God bless you

[saimalexander]

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