[Submitted Question]

My husband and I have a sweet eight-week old son. For some reason my husband keeps comparing him to his older sister though and constantly finds fault with him. I wonder if this could be because we didn't really plan on a second child. It just happened. I am now very happy about it but it seems not my husband. How can I tell him that he has a responsibility to love and care for this child just as much as for our first one?

[WombToBloom]

He may not even realize he’s doing it. I think I would find a few tangible examples of his behavior and present those to him. Tell him “You know, I noticed that you did or said this and this with regard to the baby. I don’t know that you even noticed it – but it’s making me sad. I feel like you’re punishing him because he was a surprise or because he’s not exactly the same as our daughter. I just want you to be aware of it and I want to make sure that he grows up knowing that his daddy loves him. Just like our daughter knows that you love her.”

If he acknowledges that he is unhappy about the baby, I would reinforce that it’s not the baby’s fault and ask him if he would be willing to go to counseling with you to talk about how to handle this issue going forward.

That’s a really tough one. Does anyone else have any ideas?

[noel0077]

No need to worry about i hope that he will soon become good and loving father for him also. So just wait and watch. God Bless You and your family as well