[Submitted Question]

I understand that the baby is the most important thing for my wife right now. Still, I think she should not completely ignore me. I feel that she doesn't really see me at all anymore. Should I talk to her about it?

Joe L., Oklahoma

[WombToBloom]

Absolutely! You’re probably right in believing that your wife is focused on the new baby. And it’s so easy to lose sight of your relationship with a new baby. Everyone is stressed and exhausted and overwhelmed. That doesn’t leave much energy to devote to your spouse. Moms seem to be worse at this because we tend to want to do ALL of the baby stuff ourselves and then we wear ourselves out in the process.

I think you should definitely say something – just don’t approach it from a “me, me, me” point of view. Tell her that you miss just talking with her and hanging out with her. Tell her that you can see that she’s worn out and ask her if she’d like to have “date night” (even if you don’t leave the house – she’ll take the cue to let go of her tasks for a few hours while the baby is sleeping). Tell her that you are afraid that you’re both getting so stressed about baby stuff that you feel that your relationship is suffering a little. When she sees that you genuinely want to pay attention to your marriage (as opposed to telling her that she’s too wrapped up in the baby and you need some attention too – see how those semantics work?!), I think she’ll probably appreciate your concern and respond.

[tariq456]

Yes,I am agree with WombToBloom but if this is your first child then I can understand.Little bit ignorance is possible but she should totally ignores you..I think you should talk to her on this matter!