[Submitted Question]

Let's just say my childhood was not exactly idyllic. I am determined to provide a much better home for my four-month old son. My husband is great and my little one a real sweetheart. Still, I can't help worrying that I will make the same mistakes that my parents made. Should I talk about this with my husband?

Julie V., Hawaii

[WombToBloom]

Absolutely! I think that the mere fact that you recognize the mistakes your parents made is a great indicator that you are unlikely to repeat them. But you and your husband need to be on the same page for parenting issues anyway. So, get it all out on the table and explain your history and concerns to him. Ask him to share his thoughts about those concerns for your child and help you figure the best way to avoid repeating the past mistakes. I think that, if everything is out in the open and discussed in detail, you are less likely to allow yourself to conduct yourself in the way you wish to avoid. And your husband can keep his eyes and ears open for any situations in which he can step in to help you. So, he needs to know and participate! Talk!!!

[noel0077]

Yes why not you should shear your problem with your husband after all he your life partner.