For our daughter's first birthday, which was in April, we kept it low-key. First, she's clueless as to what the heck is going on and it's not like she has a friends list yet.

Second, the party was more for us than her anyhow and we just wanted family so that it wasn't a chaotic scene.

I totally agree with Steph...if the baby is happy, you're happy, and that's all that matters.