[Submitted Question]

I am expecting my first child in eight weeks. Unfortunately, my parents can not accept the fact that I am having a baby without being married. They haven't spoken to me since they found out. Should I just accept their decision or should I make another attempt to talk to them for the sake of the baby?

[WombToBloom]

It has got to be so hard to be going through your first pregnancy without the support of your parents. They’re apparently hurt and disappointed by your choices. I think you should reach out to them one more time – either in person, by phone or in writing (you make the call as to which might work best for you and your parents). Acknowledge their feelings. And tell them that you would really like for them to know their grandchild and be a part of his or her life. Tell them that you would be very sad and disappointed if they chose to take out their frustrations on you by ignoring their grandchild. Don’t be accusatory. Don’t be defensive. Just share your feelings.

If they continue to refuse to have a relationship with you, you’ll have to learn to accept it. Th ey’re grown-ups and they’ll make up their own minds. They may not do what you want them to do. And you’ll need to do whatever necessary to work through the pain that might cause you in order to be the best mom you can be to your new baby. Good luck.