[Submitted Question]

I'm so afraid of what will happen. You know, me being 16 and all how I am going to support the baby. I will try my best at seeing that the baby has good health, but being that this is my first I wouldn't know where to start with everything. I am currently looking for a job in my area, that seems like a good start. Hope I get called back. I've read tons of articles online but none seem to be related to my situation. Please Help =[ I really don't want to stress out about this because i've heard it can be bad for the baby.

Maybe there are some programs out there that will help me out with some things, you know, until I get settled with everything.

[WombToBloom]

At your age you will most definitely experience a surge of emotions, and fear of the unknown will be one of them. The first support network to consider is family. Are your parents supportive? Perhaps not of the situation but at least supportive of you and the health of your baby? How about the baby's father or his parents? You didn't enter into pregnancy alone, nor should you have to go through it alone.

There are many programs available and Planned Parenthood would be a good start for some options. You mentioned them in another post so I would discuss your concerns with them.

To ensure that the baby has good health, avoid smoking, alcohol, caffeine, and simply try and eat a good diet rich in fruits and vegetables along with a good amount of water. If you can obtain prenatal vitamins then this would also help fill any nutritional gaps your diet may be leaving.

Your body has a wonderful way of nurturing the baby, you just have to give it the fuel it needs to do so. If you'd like, I can send you a copy of our Fit Mom, Fit Baby eBook as there are tons of details and tips relating to nutrition and exercise.

[denise1624]

Thanks for all the help. My dad is not a very supportive guy. He'd kick me out if this happened, he told me. My mom will get mad at first but she'll help me later on. The baby's father is a really nice guy and he feels the same way I do. He feels he really wants the baby but that it'll take time from me and him being together and having fun. The father's father is a VERY supportive guy. He has gone through a lot of thing in life. Close to what we're going through now. He was 17 when he had his first kid. So he know's what were going through that's why he's willing to do anything to try and help us. He also said that he's going to buy a bigger house soon so I'd stay with him. But, I'm so frustrated that we didn't think before we did something. We should've thought this over, I Know. I'm so mad at myself for it. =[ I feel really bad for making his father help me. =[ *sigh* Sorry I'm throwing all this in the air. I'm just so terrified. Oh and I'd love the book. But I justt don't have the money to buy it. About the vitamins, I bought them a couple of days ago. I bought these: Shop online Right Step Prenatal Care Vitamin Tablets With Folic Acid & Iron - 100 Tablets at AmericaRx.com Are they the ones that I should've gotten? Also, I'll be visiting Planned Parenthood as soon as I get a call back from them concerning my first appointment with them.

Thanks for all your help.

[WombToBloom]

The vitamins look fine and I'll provide the book at no charge as it will help both you and your baby if you apply the information.

It sounds to me as though your parents don't even know, do they? You say your mom "will get mad at first" which implies she has no idea. If they don't know, you need to tell them, as scary a proposition as that sounds.

It's great that the baby's father is taking responsibility but as far as his concern that the baby will take away from you being together and having fun, that mystifies me. My husband and I have a complete blast taking care of our children and there are PLENTY of things you can do together with baby in-tow that are fun. Now, if by fun he means going out, partying, and doing what a typical teen would do, then yes, those days are squelched.

But, he needs to look beyond the effects on his social life and consider the baby. Your baby will depend on you for life and depend on the two of you for comfort and nurturing. Yes, you should have considered the implications before engaging in sex at such a young age, but that is irrelevant now. What matters is what you decide to do from this day forward as this will ultimately chart the life course for your baby.

I'm not one for getting all preachy, lol, I just want the best for you and your baby. Just as I would for any new mom-to-be. Right now, your focus needs to be on your health, the health of your baby, and the circle of support that you and your baby will have as you go through pregnancy and the baby's first few years.

[denise1624]

Yea, my parent's don't know yet but I'll tell them soon. Well my mom that is. My bf's father is going to talk with my father, since he's better at talking to him about things.

Me and my boyfriend are happy that we're going to have a baby. We just thought that since we're still teens and haven't finished school that we won't see each other that much. We don't party at all. We don't like it.

I know it's a big responsibility, i'm just scared. Oh and I'd like the book. Since I have alot of free time I think it'll help me calm down. Thanks for all the help.